I’m in the midst of fulfilling our fall programs here at SHIFT-IT Coach, Inc. Have completed SHIFT-IT Online Group, and am in the middle of Thrive in the Time of Awakening & The Fundamentals of Interactive-Visuals … plus am navigating interesting curriculum and biz expansions for 2013 and beyond.
There is a bit of a theme happening these last weeks that comes to the fore when I sit down to write this ezine. It’s a theme about manifestation and what it takes to create a fulfilling life. And it’s a theme about the balance of magic, wonder and awe with the pragmatics of good old-fashioned hard work, discipline and follow-through.
With Fundamentals of Interactive-Visuals I’m guiding process professionals through the ins and outs of learning and implementing visual skills into their own practices. With THRIVE, we’re doing deep inner work (called Soul Integration) to identify and heal fragmented aspects of ourselves that are interfering with our ability to live full Soul-Centered lives.
Procrastination and Other Resistance:
In both classes the intent is to empower people to take responsibility for their own development. We give them the skills but it’s really up to them to use them and go through the process of integrating them into their own experience. Like learning any new skillset its takes commitment, persistence and lots of application to reap the rewards — to go from being ‘consciously incompetent’ at something to being ‘unconsciously competent’ … on the route to master
The Resistance Wall
At around the half way mark of both programs what I call ‘The Resistance Wall’ starts to predictable show up. The early glamour wears off for some folks, when they realize that visual work and spirituality work … well, they are ‘work’. That a magic wand doesn’t magically anoint them with new skills or a new state in life just by signing up … they have to commit to their development process to reap the rewards. If they do, they get awesome results. If they don’t … they won’t.
Doing and Being:
The development process is not only an outward one of taking action, but also an inner one of softening resistance, frustration and negative self-talk. The learner follows instruction and completes recommended exercises and processes but also has to concurrently manage their emotional landscape. Learning how to ‘allow’ their process as it is … to not demand instant results but make their natural unfoldment ok, good and perfect. The ‘being’ is just as important as the ‘doing’ … in fact without more relaxed being the doing can often get stopped in its tracks. This is where folks start falling of the radar screen … getting busy in other things, deciding they don’t want it after all, or my personal favorite … blaming the teaching or container and other forms of acting out.
You Are Your Own Santa Claus:
I love magic and wonder … and I love creativity, flow and synchronicity.
And I also love things being ‘easy’. And am a big believer that when there is passion there is easiness or at least pleasure and enjoyment.
All the fabulous right brain stuff!
You are probably aware of the famous “Yes Virginia, There is a Santa Claus” New York Sun editorial. It’s a lovely sentiment that continues to stand the test of time. However, I would put a twist on it: Yes Virginia, There is a Santa Claus … and it’s an energy that resides in you! Magic is not some outside force that grants good stuff to some people and not to others. It’s the natural effect of lining up your internal energy in such a matter that you become a Vibrational Match to the things that you say
Alignment is An Inside Job:
A good teacher, coach or mentor can certainly help you in reframing your thoughts into more productive patterns. But they can’t be there with you 24/7. Eventually you need to take more and more of that job on yourself. And, it’s not really about thoughts at the deeper level anyway. It’s about the feelings that those thoughts activate in your physical and emotional bodies.
Soothing Thoughts for your Development Path
So, if you are an Interactive-Visuals or THRIVE student, or anyone who is in the process of becoming your Next Self, here are some soothing statements to reassure the negative beast within … and hopefully bring some stabilization and calm to your development path:
- Any new skillset takes investment in time and resources to develop, that is normal and ok.
- Nobody is perfect to begin with (in fact what is perfection anyway … its more about ‘good enough is good enough for now’).
- Anyone who is good at something went through an awkward growth stage at some point in their development, so why should I be an exception?
- I’m good at lots of things, its just going to be a process to over time get good at this too.
- Most people aren’t savants … they don’t magically wake up being exceptional at something – like Malcolm Gladwell writes about in Outliers,
the research shows that it takes 10,000 hours to reach mastery.
- Thankfully I don’t have to reach mastery in order for my new skill to be of good use.
- Comparison is only useful to a certain level, if its not making me feel good to look at other people’s output, then I can stop doing that and focus on, accept and love my own unique journey.
- There are learning curves for everything. Training wheels are normal to start with. Eventually I’ll move through my mimic stage to develop my own signature style. For now the mimic stage is fine granted I give credit where credit is due and respect intellectual property boundaries.
- My teacher’s responsibility is to provide a useful and well organized curriculum, its my responsibility to implement it.
- I’m doing great. I’m proud of myself. This is a journey that I can relax into. I don’t have to have it all figured out and implemented this red-hot minute!
- I trust my process. I trust life. Life is good. I’m fortunate to live in this time and space and have the access that I do.
- I’m really appreciative of this experience I have drawn to myself. Its fascinating, I’m learning a lot. I’ll figure out how to apply it all as I go along.
- For now, I can enjoy my process. It’s uniquely mine. Nobody else in the multiverse is me. I’m contributing to the whole by just being authentically me.