By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 04:17:12 +0000

Here’s my experience; I don’t have the color association but use the metaphor of ‘mother’ or ‘bitch’. There’s times when I’m care and want everyone to be happy and let go of the reigns and just want to make sure everyone feels good and how I feel is less important; and then I swing to the ‘bitch’ who is focused on getting results; feelings don’t matter; and ‘if ya don’t do want I say or need, then you can go elsewhere.” So — it’s a challenge for me to be firm and yet also balanced in my approach to setting boundaries, sticking with them, and also doing it in a way that doesn’t discount or invalidate others. This is my current lesson; learning how to believe in my self and hold my boundaries and getting in touch with my feelings early on; and staying true to those boundaries in a gentle yet firm way without discounting or humiliating others. I’m learning….

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By: Julie