Hi Christina, my question is about changing careers. I have been in the insurance industry for 10 years. I currently work for an independent agent and I am miserable! My supervisor is a friend from a prior job and she is driving me crazy!!!! She has the owner of the company completely fooled. I really want to change careers as I really don’t like insurance and there is no room for growth at my present company. I’m really bored and I need more money. I want to work from home, but I don’t know exactly what I want to do. I’ve started working on a vision board. Any advice.Thanks for your help. – Heather
Answer: Hi Heather. Hmmm, I bet you didn’t know that I originally found out about The Law of Attraction because I too disliked my job and was complaining to someone about it … kind of like you are here. So you have my empathy … and, I’m going to do to you what my friend did to me about nine years ago … and caution you about what you are creating by how you are choosing to focus on this. From this note, I can see that you haven’t quite got the hang of how Law of Attraction works (or, you wouldn’t have written it like you have). However, when you do, a big light bulb is going to go off for you (like it did for me).
First off, we have to get you off of what you don’t want and onto what you do. And off of what doesn’t feel good, onto what does. I know, sometimes easier said than done when you are in a rut.
If i look at your note, you overwhelming have written about what you don’t want and what doesn’t feel good:
- I am miserable
- She is driving me crazy
- Has owner completely fooled
- I really don’t like insurance
- There is no room for growth
- I’m really bored
- I need more money
- I don’t know exactly what i want to do
However, you have written a bit about what you do want:
- I want to work from home
- More money
- Started working on a vision board
Notice the difference in energy of those two lists. Ahhhhh, notice the shift in energy in the second one. Whew, relief. The energy of your note is almost a three to one split … with your negative statements outweighing your positive statements by three to one. That, my dear, is what we need to work on with you and some strategic planning about steps to take to get you more empowered and moving onto things that are a better fit for you.
A vision board is a great start. Because it gets you onto what you do want. For info on how to do Vision Boards effectively, see these two posts:
More Examples of Vision Boards
We’ll also have to work on teaching you how to soothe yourself and how to feel better about what is currently going on. Because what you resist, persists. I did a blog post a while ago about Positive Aspects … I suggest you print out the free map that is included in that post and do it on your current job and on your supervisor. This will help you feel a bit better about both your job and your supervisor … change your vibration slightly. Authentic appreciation is a very positive vibration … and I bet you can change your focus somewhat and come up with a list of better feeling things about your current scenario.
Raise Your Vibe Via a Positive Aspects Map
You write in your note that you don’t know ‘exactly what you want to do’ … but do you know vaguely or somewhat? Do you have some hunches? Wishes? Desires? If you did know, what would you say? Obviously its something that includes working from home. I would invite you to let your heart of hearts talk to you about what you really, really like and are attracted to. We can see here that it isn’t insurance … but what is it? Everyone I work with knows what they are attracted to, to some level. Its normally more about being afraid of admiting it because it is so precious and you have doubts about whether you can do it. Whatever it is, you can do it. You can get the essence of what you desire, if not the exact form. You just need to be honest about what you want and then deal with your resistance and start taking little actions. One after the other. As the famous proverb goes … the journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step.
Yes, it might be a journey to SHIFT your work to what you really like. SHIFTing my life and work has been a journey for me. However, it can totally be done. Life and time passes anyway (you’ve already been 10 years at something you don’t like … so might as well do the work of shifting it, even if it takes some time to do).
Let me know how the Positive Apects and Vision Boards go for you … then i can suggest more things. Also, review the previous Ask Christina question I wrote a few weeks ago about free resources for learning more about the law of attraction.
Also, I’d be remise if I didn’t point out that you are ideal for my upcoming SHIFT-IT Virtual Group (level 1) starting in September … so I invite you to consider it. There are payment plans available to make it as financially easy as possible. You can contact my scheduling assistant Launa, at launa@shift-it-coach.com to set up a free 20 minute consult, if you’d like to discuss your participation in this. Would be great to hear your voice and personality.
All the best Heather. Keep us posted on how you are doing!
Yours in SHIFTing IT,
Christina Merkley
The SHIFT-IT Coach
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