This article has been brewing for a while, as I’ve been learning more about this topic myself — the natural role of angst and discomfort as part of the creative or evolutionary process.
If you have been keeping tabs on me for a while, you know that I am into “Law of Attraction” … at least what I consider the ‘good’ LOA. The stuff that is actually useful, practical and applicable. I run collaborative programs with The THEO Group and have been a long time student of the Abraham-Hicks material — both great resources about the laws of manifestation and how things operate in our world at the finer, deeper, energetic levels.
Bad Stuff is Not Necessarily Bad:
One thing that I find very interesting in my LOA work and as a visual facilitator and coach … is the role of tension, angst, discomfort — in short, the so-called ‘bad stuff’. People new to the Law of Attraction and new facilitators and other process leads, naively think that they are doing something wrong if ‘bad’ things happen in their life or events.
While experiencing challenging, hard or even brutal stuff in your life … or in your facilitated sessions (see cartoon!) is often not fun in the moment … it can be a huge cathartic gift that opens things up, gets stale energy moving and results in a creative breakthrough. That could never have happened without the so-called ‘bad’ stuff being expressed.
Abraham-Hicks & THEO’s Shared Message:
In following both Abraham & THEO for years, in my opinion they are advising the same thing about so-called negative events, but in different ways.
Abraham uses the word ‘contrast‘ to describe the so-called bad stuff in life. That there is an opportunity embedded in the shitty stuff. That we have an opportunity to use the contrast in our lives to get clear about what we next prefer. Lately they have been calling it ‘taking the bounce‘. As in bouncing off the crappy stuff in order to get clear about and orient towards the good stuff. Another wonderful term that they use for this is the ‘rocket of desire‘. Our contrast helps us define our rockets of desires like nothing else does. That in fact, they explain, our dualistic world is set up this way and this is how the leading edge continues to expand and advance.
THEO’s message is different but in my opinion ultimately the same. In their Soul Integration Process*, they advise that your life will bring you gifts in the form of activations, triggers and hot spots. Our job is to notice when these activations occur and to do our inner integration work to heal their root causes (earlier incidences in this life or others that have a similar hit to them). When we do this, we raise our vibration and shift our point of attraction. The reason we are being activated in the present is because of an earlier incident where we were hurt or traumatized by something similar … and its lying in wait for us to clean it up. The present day incident is an opportunity to become aware of the old hurt (or fragmentation or orphan) that is still pushing our buttons and to integrate it.
Ultimately their message is about using your present day triggers to heal yourself, grow up and ultimately create emotional mastery or soul integration.
* For a full explanation of THEO’S Soul Integration Process® and to experience for yourself (aided by visuals maps and direct interaction with THEO) see Thrive in the Time of Awakening that starts October 2nd).
A Martial Arts / Bodybuilding Analogy:
Esoteric stuff like this is challenging to write about. Another way to think about it, is by using a physical analogy, like weight training …
And, as my wonderful integrated movement trainer Blaise Eagleheart reminds me … the best reps in the gym are the ones where it seems like you aren’t making it … where you hit your ceiling. But its those tough reps that are actually requiring your system to recalibrate at a level. Those last few challenging reps are where all the growth happens. That is how we expand into previously unobtainable territory and move down the rack into higher and higher weights (or in the case of life or work, move on into our next level of development and expansion). It seems like we are breaking down but we are actually moving through and up and our body comes back differently as a result next time we do it.
So, the next time something happens in your life or work experiences (especially for the process professionals who are reading this) … something that hurts, stings, or seems bad at the surface. Remember that there is inherently an opportunity embedded in that seeming negativity if you can use it skillfully. I just went through one of these a few weeks ago! There is the opportunity to milk it, use it, work it, SHIFT-IT … to change things to a higher level of order. To get focused on what this tells us about what we DO want (and put our focus, thoughts and actions there) rather than staying on what we don’t want. When we have the discipline to do this new ideas, inklings and actions unfold. And step by step we emerge into our Next Selves (and so do the people we work with in our process work).
©2012 Christina L. Merkley
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Author’s Bio: Christina Merkley, “The SHIFT-IT Coach” and creator of the SHIFT-IT System®, is a Visioning and Strategic Planning Expert specializing in Visual Thinking and Law of Attraction techniques. Based in charming Victoria, British Columbia, Canada, she works deeply with individuals, partners and conscious businesses to define and manifest what they truly want. And, trains other helping professionals in her innovative ways of working. For more information visit: www.shift-it-coach.com and www.visualcoaches.com